Practicing Kindness: Rekindling Kindness in an Unkind World

Practicing Kindness: Rekindling Kindness in an Unkind WorldIntroduction

How do we define kindness?

According to the dictionary, the quality of being kind involves a “sympathetic and helpful nature.” The very act of kindness means we exhibit sympathy and couple it with actions that provide assistance, to the betterment of the quality of life to someone else.

It sounds simple. Why then is it so hard? Why is it especially difficult when the one we’re trying to show it to is ourselves?

The aspect of kindness is twofold:

– There isn’t a person in the entire world who isn’t capable of it.
– It has a way of turning around and reflecting back on the giver.

With these facts in mind, it’s a wonder more people aren’t kind. After all, if it truly matters, shouldn’t we all be more compassionate to others…and to ourselves automatically?

In this article, we’re going to look at the nature of it. We’ll examine how kindness helps us and others in our daily life. Then, as you start to feel the rekindling of it within your heart, you’ll discover lots of tips on how to add more kindness into your day.

Kindness Matters

Just how important is kindness? Isn’t the popular advice to focus on realizing our own goals and getting ahead?

Some people play life as if it’s a competitive sport. They throw themselves into winning at all costs, with no thought to how their behaviour impacts themselves or anyone around them. While this kind of ruthless pushing to get to the top of the heap might get you there, it’s worth considering if you’ll be able to live with the person you’ve become in the process.

This is because kindness shows us a lot more about ourselves than we realize. Kind people are empathetic. They’re in tune with the world around them and carry with them an awareness of the needs of others. What’s more, they’re not shy about acting on those needs in offering a helping hand when it’s required the most. You’ve undoubtedly heard the expression, “There but for the grace of God, go I.”

If you don’t think it matters, stop to consider the impact it has on both ourselves and on the world around us.

How Kindness Helps Others

Helping HandsKindness is Contagious

One simple act of kindness act gives rise to others. For whatever reason, when someone is kind to us, we can’t help but feel an added burst of helpfulness and sympathy for the next person we encounter. One such incident, which took place in Florida back in 2014, occurred when one person paid for the coffee of the person behind them in a drive-thru line. This inspired people to do the same for the next person behind them – over and over again. By the end of the day, 378 people had ‘paid it forward’ by purchasing the coffee for the next person in line. It was an unprecedented act which lasted for more than 11 hours, proving that indeed, a single act of kindness can truly bring out the best in us.

Connects Us to Others

When we are kind to another human being, we meet them on an entirely different plane than we would ordinarily. We find in this mutual moment of sympathetic understanding, just how good it feels to reach out and be touched in return. We find ourselves feeling more intimately connected with the world around us. This is an effect which can even become long-lasting, as the memory of it is carried within both parties, sometimes for years afterwards.

Makes Every Battlefield More Tolerable

We have no idea what someone else is going through. Even at our most sympathetic, we don’t always understand the pain and fear someone else might be facing. But regardless of our own understanding of the situation, our kind actions do have a lasting impact: They make whatever the other person is going through at least a little more tolerable. To the person in need, a single act of kindness becomes a tangible reminder that they are not alone. It becomes the unspoken sympathy, the reverent act of being lifted over the hard places and carried a little further along the way. Sometimes it is what makes it possible to go on.

Creates Ripples

Sometimes we will never know just how far an act of kindness can go. Much like the story of the butterfly on the mountaintop who fluttered her wings and created a hurricane, so too will the act of it continue to ripple out far beyond the original act. Because of your act of kindness, you brightened someone’s day. Because that person’s day was brightened, they made a positive decision they might not have otherwise made. Because of that decision, someone else’s life changed. Because that person’s life changed, they were perhaps kind to someone else. You never know where it might end.

Gives Voice to Others

When someone is going through a difficult time, they find it harder to speak up for themselves, especially when it comes to enunciating their needs. A kind act can then become their voice, either in giving the other person the ability to speak up or in speaking for them when they’re unable. Either way, the result is the same. The other person gains the experience of having been heard and feels as though their voice really does matter.

Heals

When we are hurt, we tend to pull in on ourselves and hide. Kindness is what draws out a person who’s wounded and lets them know they’re not alone.
More than that, continued kindness has a healing effect, as it helps the other person to move past the damaging event and finds not only forgiveness but love and acceptance from the world around them.

Teaches the Next Generation

Whatever we do, we are being observed. Children mimic what they see. When the adults around them are kind, they too learn to show kindness. Think about what it means when your actions become the lessons your children take into adulthood.

Loves

In all of this, the most important takeaway of how it impacts others is summed up here. When you’re kind to another human being, you’re showing them, they are worthy of it. You’re extending to them a sweetness of understanding that can only be called love. This is truly a beautiful thing.

At the same time, It changes our own lives for the better. When we start showing kindness to ourselves, everything changes more positively. Look at some of these facts, backed up by numerous scientific studies regarding the positive benefits of kindness experienced by the giver.

How Kindness Helps Yourself

Helping ways vector Gives You Energy

Studies have shown the very act of being kind to someone else leaves the giver with feelings of energy and well-being they were not experiencing before the kind act.

Reduces Stress

For whatever reason, a kind act reduces cortisol in the giver by up by 23%. Cortisol is the hormone our bodies produce when under stress. If you don’t think this is significant, consider this: Cortisol is responsible for high blood pressure, significantly raised high blood sugar, the suppression of your immune system, and negatively impacts your ability to think.

Improves Heart Health

As noted before, the effects of stress reduction mean you’re going to see some positive impact on your blood pressure when you’re kind to others. But kind acts also raise your levels of oxytocin, which is known to improve overall heart health. As an added benefit, oxytocin is also the chemical enabling us to feel optimistic and more confident.

Reduces Pain

When we want to reduce pain naturally, the trick is to find some way to release endorphins in the brain. Kindness has been proven to do just that. In fact, this is just part of the whole “feel good” effect of being kind.

Boosts Pleasure

There are more than endorphins at work here, though. When someone does something nice for us, there are certain parts of the brain having to do with pleasure and rewards, that light up like a Christmas tree. Believe it or not, those same areas show just as much activity when you’re being kind to someone else as when someone is being kind to you.

Acts as an Antidepressant

Acts of kindness have been shown to act as an antidepressant by producing serotonin, the ingredient used in many medications used for depression and anxiety, naturally.

Causes You to Live Longer

Extensive studies have proven when people over the age of 55 volunteer, they reduce their mortality by 44%! This is a higher benefit than is found even through exercising regularly.

This is a lot of benefit from just showing it to someone else. Now imagine the power of showing kindness to yourself.

When we treat ourselves well, we see all of these health benefits magnified. Here’s where we start experiencing a shift in our point of view. We’re more forgiving of ourselves and stop negative self-talk, which is so damaging to self-esteem. We start seeing our contributions as being valuable. We start dreaming bigger and create more concrete goals for our lives. As a result, we accomplish more of what we set out to do.

We also become more content in our lives. Satisfaction goes up, even as stress and anxiety go down. We really do become happier, and not just in the way our brain chemicals are arranged. We become happier individuals.

So, what about you? Ready to rekindle kindness in your life? Keep reading to get some ideas on how to show more kindness to others. Then once you get the hang of this kindness mindset, we’ll look at some ways you can be kinder to yourself as well.

Being Kinder to Others

Helping beggar When we’re kind to others, our world changes. We saw this already in the list of benefits in the last chapter. Hopefully, by now you’ve started setting yourself up to recognize its opportunities wherever you go. The more you act in kindness, the more opportunities to be kind you’ll notice. What makes this even more special is how this eventually translates to your own life as well. For now, though, let’s focus on what you can do for others.

Show Your Support

Sometimes the kindest thing we can do in a situation is very small. Just showing up and giving your support when someone else is going through tough times can make a giant difference to them. There’s nothing like knowing you have someone in your corner, rooting for you.

Choose a Kind Word

We always have choices as to our response in any given situation. By making a conscious effort to choose the kindest word, we keep the lines of communication open and let the other person know we care about them enough to be kind. Of course, this doesn’t always mean agreeing with what the other person has to say. Keep in mind, even a “no” or a contrary opinion can be delivered with kindness.

Pass It Along

Has someone done something kind for you? Consider how to pass it along. If someone added money to your parking meter, how about doing the same for a stranger who’s meter is about to run out? If you were just given an honest compliment, what compliment can you give in return? Always consider how to keep the kindness going.

Be Mindful of Your Actions

We don’t always stop to think about how our actions impact the people around us. If we’re in a hurry, we might be brusque with someone else, which could very easily be interpreted as being rude or unkind. If we’re behind on a deadline and keep working when someone comes to talk to us, we’re perceived as being disinterested or bored. By being mindful of how your behavior looks to others, you’re being kind by giving them your full attention to what they have to say.

Be More Open-minded

Who should you be kind to? Everybody. When you’re working to be more compassionate to those around you, gender, age, race, the religious background shouldn’t make any difference in your level of kindness. This is perhaps one of the greatest considerations you can ever show anyone.

Expect Nothing

Genuine kindness never looks for payback. When you’re trying to be kind, don’t try to work through what kind of reciprocal action you’re hoping for in return. Remember, showing kindness has its own rewards.

Become a Role Model

Realize other people will be watching, especially children. When you make a point to do something kind for someone else, this will be noticed by those around you. How might your act of kindness be a teaching moment? Perhaps you’ll want to take a moment to explain to your child, so they can better understand the impact of kindness both on themselves and others.

Reach Out When It’s Hard

This one kind of works with the last. Knowing the world is watching means sometimes choosing to be kind even when you don’t feel like it. On the other hand, choosing the harder path should never be wholly contingent of who’s eyes are on you. Kindness performed even when you know it won’t be appreciated or welcomed, is a noble act.

Perform at Least One Kind Act Daily

Still struggling in being kind? Become more intentional. Make it a daily goal to do something kind for someone else every day. This puts you in a mindset of hunting for opportunities. Once you start looking, you’ll be amazed at how easy they are to find.

See the Situation from Someone Else’s Point of View

When we notice someone having a bad day, it’s easy to avoid the drama and just walk away. Genuine kindness stops and tries to understand what’s going on. The practice of empathy is telling the other person you care enough to try and see things their way.

Examine Your Intentions

Why are you being kind? If you’re having trouble being kind to others, it might be because your motivation is wrong. Are you looking for payback? Trying to earn brownie points with the boss? If your intentions are less than honourable, it’s time to take a step back and explore what kindness really means. True compassion comes from a place of helpful sympathy. It might be you need to adjust your thinking to find those emotions within yourself.

Start Small

Trying to be kind doesn’t have to involve significant, grandiose actions. In fact, some of the best kindnesses are very small. Leaving the car with a full tank of gas for your spouse or replacing the empty toothpaste tube out are kindnesses quite meaningful to the other person.

Know When to Step Back

On occasion, the kindest act is to step away from the situation, especially if you’re becoming angry or frustrated. Rather than lose your temper or say something you might regret, giving someone the gift of a closed mouth and a quick departure.

Try Meditation

Much of mindful mediation is very self-focused. While this certainly serves a very positive purpose when you’re seeking out ways to show it toward others, meditation needs to take a somewhat different form. One such example is the Buddhist Loving-Kindness Meditation, which begins in loving yourself as fully as possible. Once you’ve reached this point, direct your thoughts to those around you, sending those loving feelings outwards. The meditation becomes even more powerful when you include those you dislike as well.

Reorganize Your Self Talk

What are you saying? We so often keep up an inner dialogue without really paying attention to the words we choose. Later on, we’ll examine the things we say about ourselves. For now, consider what you think about others. If your first thought on seeing someone is negative, such as, “he’s so boring,” or “gosh she’s stupid,” stop and notice. It begins at the very core of our being. How can you possibly show kindness to someone externally when you have nothing but contempt for them inside? Start taking kind action by changing your thoughts kinder.

Create an Action Plan

Kindness rarely just happens. Making a plan to be kind during the day gives you a much higher chance of success. Start your day with an idea in mind of how you’re going to show it to those around you. Include actionable steps to make it happen. Then go out there and do what you’ve set out to do.

Be Objective

Another way we show it is through keeping our own emotions in check. When we remain objective in a situation, we allow someone else to express themselves without fear. People appreciate this trait so much that they seek out people they know to be objective when they’re looking for advice or opinions. Offering objectivity in these situations becomes the kindness of giving someone a person they can talk to safely.

Don’t Play into Negativity

We all need a safe place to rant sometimes. However, when someone chooses us to be their sounding board, the kindest thing we can do is to avoid feeding into the negative spiral and sending them lower. This can be hard, especially as it’s so easy to jump onto this particular bandwagon. The problem is, it never helps anyone to do so. This is why it’s so much more important to offer kindness through sympathy and a listening ear than to join in the rant.

Be Nice to Strangers

When you hold a door open for someone or allow them to merge in front of you on the highway, you’re showing kindness to strangers. Think how little it costs you to give a smile or a kind word to a clerk. Throughout your day, you’d be surprised how many opportunities you have to show kindness to people you’ve never met before and are unlikely to see again. By the same token, you’d be amazed at how much those strangers appreciate these random bits of it, much the way you do when someone you don’t know is kind to you.

Keep the Criticism to Yourself

Remember when you were told as a child, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all?” The theory still applies. Of course, there are always situations where constructive criticism is warranted, but in most cases, it’s unnecessary. Keep in mind that while you might not like how something was done, the person who did it may be delighted with the result. It’s in situations like this where the kindest thing you can do is to keep your mouth shut.

Listen More

Speaking of keeping quiet, kindness means listening to what someone else has to say. Learn how to become an active listener, someone who does more than just nod and smile as someone talks. Pay attention to what’s being said. Respond in ways that allow the other person to explain further. Let the other person guide the conversation around to what it is they really want to talk about. You’d be amazed at how much this particular kindness is appreciated by anyone, regardless of age, social situation, or experience.

Ask Questions

Being an active listener can also include asking the right questions. Just in showing an honest interest by looking for further explanation or clarification, or in asking questions designed to allow the other person to share their experience or stories, you’re showing the kindness.

Be Timely

Nothing says you respect someone like showing consideration for their time. This means showing up when you say you’re going to and answering calls, texts, or emails promptly instead of making someone wait a long time for your reply.

Practice Being Thoughtful

You might not have thought of it as kindness to remember an anniversary or birthday, but this means a lot to the recipient. By being thoughtful and recalling those important dates in someone else’s life, you’re showing them you care enough about them to remember the small details.

Lose the Gossip

This is another instance where being kind means keeping certain things to yourself. No one likes to be talked about behind their back. If someone comes to you and starts in on a slew of gossip, the kindest thing you can do in this situation is to shut it down there. Tell them you’re not interested, and then keep whatever you’ve inadvertently learned to yourself.

Apologize and Forgive

We all screw up, whether we mean to or not. Whatever the situation, even if you’re not entirely sure whose fault the situation was, apologize. Show the kindness of being the bigger person. Similarly, if someone apologizes to you, accept what they have to say and move on. Whatever precipitated the apology, on either side, is over now and done with.

Note the Good

How many times do we take notice of the good things around us? By sharing with others the things that leave us feeling joyful, we’re inviting them to enjoy something we see as unique with them. This kindness invites someone else a little closer into your world.

Give Out More Praise

When is the last time you said something about someone else’s accomplishment? It’s kind to notice, and even kinder to give a compliment. Praise people often for their achievements, no matter how small. Nothing makes someone’s day like hearing they’ve done something right.

Say Thank You

If someone does something nice for you, the kindest response is so simple: just say “thank you.” You’d be amazed at how much small politeness can be appreciated.

Volunteer

Extend it into the community by spending time doing something for someone else. Volunteering takes on many forms, from taking meals to shut-ins to cleaning up litter in your local park. There are so many opportunities to be kind to those around us. A quick look online can put you in touch with dozens of projects in your area that are just waiting for someone like you to come to lend a hand.

Set a Boundary

It’s not always easy to see how saying ‘no’ can be considered kind. Sadly, there are many situations where you genuinely need to do just that. If you’re in a co-dependent relationship, for example, the kindest thing you can do for the other person might very well be to say ‘no.’ Some kindnesses of this nature are going to involve some tough decisions. It might be kinder to your children, in the long run, to let them learn the consequences of their actions. It could be to the benefit of your co-worker to not bail them out on their project. In situations like this, you might need to do some serious soul-searching, or even talk to someone else (such as a counselor) to help you sort out when a boundary might be the kindest thing you can do.

Make a Gesture

Every kindness you show someone else starts here, with the gesture of sympathy. Intentions count for very little. At some point, you’re going to need to get out there and try. No one is asking you to be perfect, and in fact, some kindnesses might even backfire from time to time. The point is, you’re making the effort. In the end, this is what really counts.

Feeling it is growing yet? Let’s read on and discover some ways to be kinder to yourself next.

Being Kinder to Yourself

Being Kinder to YourselfBy now, you should have discovered something interesting. In paying attention to kindness and looking for ways to be kinder to other people, you’re likely learning it’s easier to be kind to yourself as well.

If that isn’t the case, don’t despair as it soon will be.

We’ve already talked about the positive benefits of being kind to yourself. Now we’re going to look at several ways to incorporate self-kindness into your daily life.

This is probably one of the most critical habits you’ll ever build. Being kind to yourself means you care enough to take care of yourself. You’re striving to be the best version of yourself possible, which is going to have very positive benefits on both your mental and physical self. This is exciting stuff.

On the other hand, you might feel some pushback on this. If you’re like most people, you’ve been conditioned to think self-kindness is selfish. You might even find it hard to carry out some of these tips. When this happens, you’re going to need to sit back and take a moment to breathe. Think about why you’re feeling this resistance. If you’re having trouble pinpointing just why it’s so difficult, you might want to try journaling or talking to someone you trust who can help you to see what’s really going on. In some cases, you might even benefit from talking things over with a professional.

No matter what, though, don’t give up! Self-kindness has far too many benefits to walk away from it entirely. Give yourself the time to work through any roadblocks, but never stop moving forward. In the end, you’ll be thankful you did.

Grab Some Me Time

If you could do anything right now, what would it be? Taking a little time for yourself to do something you love shows it and concern for your mental well-being. We all need a little ‘me time’ once in a while.

Calm Yourself

Take a deep breath. Hold it. Let it out slow. Perhaps one of the kindest things we can give ourselves is a peaceful mind, cleared of stress and soothed of anxiety. Relax. Meditate. It’s okay to give yourself a few minutes to slow your busy mind.

Celebrate Accomplishments

What have you done? Every accomplishment is worth celebrating. Kindness acknowledges what you’ve done and makes a big deal out of it. It doesn’t matter if the realized goal was minimal, the point is, you did it. Enjoy the feeling of having accomplished something you set out to do!

Become an Advocate

An advocate is someone who fights for you and takes your side when you need it. Do yourself the kindness of never hesitating to be your own advocate. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let other people put you down. Don’t even let you put you down!

Forgive Yourself

Screwed up something and having trouble letting it go? Allow yourself the same you would for anyone else and forgive yourself the past. Whatever it was, it’s over and done with now. You’ve learned from the experience. Now move on. You gain nothing by continuing to beat yourself up for a mistake.

Embrace Good Health

This is one of the most basic ways of being kind to yourself. Feed your body with good foods. Exercise regularly. Visit the doctor when you need to and embrace positive mental health. A healthy you is a happy you. Strive to be the best you can be, starting right here with your physical and psychological well-being.

Find Some Self-Respect

Why are you second-guessing yourself? It’s about time you realized your decisions are wise. You really do know what you’re doing. Once you’ve thought out a plan of action, be kind enough to give yourself the respect that comes of trusting yourself. Take it further by likewise respecting your opinions enough not to allow someone else to tell you who you are.

Indulge Yourself

What’s wrong with a little treat now and again? Sometimes the kind thing to do is to allow yourself an indulgence. So why not enjoy a glass of wine with dinner or savour a piece of chocolate as you slip into a warm bubble bath? You deserve it!

Participate in a Favorite Activity

This takes the last idea to a higher level. When is the last time you allowed yourself an afternoon at the beach or a hike at your favourite National Park? Whatever your favourite activity is, be kind enough to slip it onto the schedule. Then follow through by going out and doing it. You’ll be amazed at what this does for your levels of contentment and peace of mind.

Find the Good

We’re not always kind to ourselves because we don’t always think we’re deserving of kindness. When this happens, it’s time to make a list. Write down the things you like best about yourself. Include everything from what makes you smile, down to every talent or positive trait. Keep the list somewhere you can read it often to remind yourself of just how wonderful you are.

Build Yourself Up

Feeling down and having trouble with the list from the previous tip? Try a pep talk. Remind yourself of what you’ve accomplished. Talk to yourself the way you would to a friend who was feeling low. Give yourself a hug.

Use Affirmations

Sometimes, a more visual reminder is just the kindness you need to give your day a boost. Write out several positive sentences, things like “I’m very good at _____,” “I deserve happiness” or “I am someone worth knowing.” Read them often. For an extra power surge, try reading them out loud in front of a mirror. Do this every day until you start to believe them.

Dream

Kindness gives us permission to dream. Ask yourself the big questions: What do you want to do with your life? What big, glorious thing would you like to accomplish? Keep your dream close, as you’ll need it on the next tip.

Make a Goal

Don’t just dream. Turn your big idea into a reality by creating a goal from it. What are the action steps you need to take to make this dream happen? List out the steps. It might be you need to break this dream down into several smaller goals. What’s the next logical step? Being kind means allowing yourself to realize your potential.

Embrace the Potential

Yes, you do have potential. It seeks out the possibilities. It sees the ‘you’ of the future. Use this vision to remind yourself that you’re not standing still, you are, in fact, moving forward toward greatness.

Drop the Perfectionism

How are you being kind by demanding so much from yourself? Give your best effort and allow yourself the privilege of accepting your effort as enough.

Fail

Being able to fail is another one of those great kindnesses. It allows you to be human. Embrace the lesson of failure. Move on. Every failure holds an experience that can get you one step closer to your best life…if you are willing to embrace it.

Engage the Senses

Kindness loves the here and now. Close your eyes. What do you hear? What do you smell? When you open your eyes again, what do you see? Explore the world with all your senses. Become mindful of what you’re experiencing.

Find Your Tribe

Who inspires you? Surround yourself with people who leave you feeling motivated and happy inside. If you typically come away from social situations feeling drained, remember, the right crowd will leave you energized. You might need to make some new friends.

Have an Awkward Conversation

Holding back on sharing deep emotions and conflicts has a way of doing more harm than good. Be kind enough to yourself by talking about those difficult topics with the relevant person. Whether or not the other person is receptive to the conversation doesn’t matter. The point is you need to let out these kinds of things, rather than letting them fester and grow.

Turn off the Electronics

Have you considered living in real life? Show yourself kindness by turning off all the screens and step out into the world. Go meet with friends or make some new ones by getting involved in community offerings.

Drop the Negativity

Being kind to yourself means learning how to look on the bright side. Negativity is what keeps you bogged down in despair and is the basis of our most profound depression. If you catch yourself in a spiral of negative thoughts, it’s time to challenge them. Try rewording them to strip out the negativity, replacing words as needed to put a more positive spin on the situation. It might feel a little Pollyanna at first, but you’ll be amazed at what this does for your mood.

Confront a Fear

Kindness doesn’t tolerate living in fear. If something bothers you, confronting it takes the sting out and no longer gives it power over you. Remember, whatever you fear can be fixed. If you’re unsure how to deal with the more deep-seated fears on your own, ask for help from a counselor or a medical professional. Life is too short to be hemmed in by phobias.

Sleep More

In times of war, not allowing a prisoner to sleep is considered torture and is against the fundamental rights accorded to human beings. So why are you shorting yourself on sleep? Be kind to yourself by going to bed early. You really do need 7-9 hours of sleep every night. Make sure you get it.

Embrace the Weird

Why do we all try so hard to fit in? Being kind to yourself means allowing you to be you, with all your usual weirdness intact. Allow yourself the quirky eccentricities that make you not only amazingly unique, but someone other people can’t wait to get to know.

Simplify Your Life

Letting go of things that no longer give you joy is a straightforward way to show love to yourself. You need to declutter the objects which weigh you down, just as much as you need to take down the negative thoughts that plague you regularly. This is the only way to experience true peace.

Ask for Help

Kindness means you’re not going to force yourself to go it alone. There are times we all need help, whether it’s to boost our mood or to get past some difficulty. Give yourself an out by allowing yourself to seek outside assistance when you need it.

Treat Yourself Like a Friend

Show kindness and compassion for yourself by treating yourself as a friend. After all, you don’t put down your friends or treat them cruelly. Why should you treat yourself in a way you’d never treat anyone else?

Accept Who You Are

When you’re being kind to yourself, you stop beating yourself up for not being someone different. Instead, you learn to accept who you are and to embrace all those complex qualities and traits that make up you. It’s such a simple thing and is probably one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.

Challenge the Status Quo…and Yourself

Here is where you take kindness to the next level. Once you’re secure in who you are right now, ask this fundamental question: Who do you want to be? Here is where you explore your talents. What are the areas you would like to grow? Who is the ‘you’ you’d like to be someday? Remember those possibilities from before? Here is where you truly embrace them.

If you think this negates the acceptance you felt in the previous step, consider this: We love our children as they are, but we also look forward to the adult they’ll be someday. This is much the same thing. We can love ourselves, but we can also still see the potential for the future.

Conclusion

Being kind to ourselves and others as a quiet, yet powerful, revolution. By rekindling kindness, you’re inspiring people toward hope. You’re encouraging everyone, yourself included, to become the best they can be. You’re embracing a mindset and a way of life that can change the world.

It all begins with you.

Start with kindness within your own circles. Extend kindness to strangers. To yourself. To everyone, you come into contact with. Watch the ripples spread as kindness moves out into the world away from you as surely a pebble tossed into the middle of a still pool of water sends waves all the way to the opposite shore.

Embrace the happiness that comes from being at peace with yourself and the world around you.

If you are reading all the way till here then I would request you to follow kindness and share this with your friends and family and bring harmony to your life.